Chores done without the fight

Chores done without the fight

The Chore Wars: those constant battles of trying to get your children to do chores and yet keeping peace in the house? Is it possible to have both?

You work hard all day and then come home to a dirty house and your child is sitting in front of the t.v.
They say, ‘hey, I’ve been to school all day.
Really, and you think I have been sitting in my office all day eating bonbon?

Or you are a stay-at-home mom, and your kids don’t think you work hard so you should clean up. They shouldn’t have to do chores.
Really, because you haven’t spent all day just scrubbing floors, or bathrooms, cooking dinners, grocery shopping, changing diapers, running after little ones ensuring they are not touching things they should. Or for the older children driving them here, there and everywhere.  Right? You do nothing but sit at home watching Netflix and eating bonbons.

And so, it begins. Miscommunication is innate in every family.
Children thinking you are asking too much of them and that you don’t do much at all in your day.

You are frustrated with your children because all you have asked them to do is clean their room.  Or pick up their own dishes or put the shoes and backpack away when they get home. These simple little chores seem so hard to teach them and it causes tension and daily fighting in the home. Making it so you dread leaving work.

  • Is there a better way?
  • Can you calm the chaos that comes into the home when you ask your kids to do a chore?
  • How do you get your kids to do chores?
  • Should you pay for Chores done, and why or why not?

Check out how to help your children or yourself, break bad habits. 

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Teaching our children to Cope with Bullies

Teaching our children to Cope with Bullies

Did you know that so many are trying to teach their children how to cope with bullies, but you might be raising one?

How you talk around your children, how you judge others might be enough for your child to assume it is okay to make fun of others that are different.
We need to be careful about how we talk about others when around our children.

If you are struggling right now with you or your child being bullied, watch Joanne’s story and see how she coped.  Then continue watching as she teaches you not only how to cope but helps you understand how our unintentional words can cause our children to also become bullies.  Joanne has some very helpful tips due to a lot of experience. She is a mom who has been bullied quite a lot of her life and is now also dealing with it for her child.

I think we have all had to deal with a bully at least once in our life. but let’s also not be the reason for allowing our children to be bullies.  Our words, our actions, our judgments are being watched every day. We are the example that our children follow. So be a good one. Think about what you are saying within earshot of your children. Think about what you are doing in front of your children. Understand that your actions will be followed closely by your children.
Check out this link of a mom who had to put up with a bully in a restaurant.

Click here to see what I did to help my son learn how to cope with bullies.

London mums’ magazine: Owner and Editor Monica Costa

London mums’ magazine: Owner and Editor Monica Costa

This mom built-up London Mums’ magazine from nothing and works full time running it. Monica Costa has had the opportunity to interview some pretty amazing stars, as well as some ‘regular moms.  In her words, “sometimes these ‘regular moms are the best interviews”. Well, I can say the same thing about Monica. She is not a well-known star and she doesn’t have a ‘name’ everyone would recognize, but she is one of the best interviews I have done. She has a heart and passion for people and one of her main goals is to make the world a better place.

Raising her son, while working till the wee hours of the mornings sometimes.  She has figured out how to fit it all in.  Monica also talks about her parenting tips and skills and how she is helping her son to become a product, independent human being.

As you watch the interview you will fall in love with her spirit, and her passion for life. You will discover her love of food, toys, writing and culture.  She is planning on writing books and living her life in such a way that others will have a great example to follow. One who thinks about their fellow human being and wants to help others in any way she can.

Lastly:
Find out why she has taken up ‘Fencing’.

Click here to learn how to deal with the frustrations of being a mom, and all that entails.

Click here to watch another mom who has learned the art of full-time work and being a great mom.

Where is my Child’s Manual

Where is my Child’s Manual

You have said it and heard others say it a million times.
“Parenting would be so much easier if our kids came with a manual’.
But stop and think about that statement and tell me, what would have learned if they did come with a manual?
We need to discover who are children are, what makes them tick, what causes them joy and or pain.
We need to learn that all kids are not the same. They all think differently, they all learn differently, and they all need different things from us as their parents.

Discovering who your child is: what makes them tick, what makes them happy or sad,  is the biggest job and best job in the world. If we had a manual, it would take most of the learning out of the equation.
Now, what fun would that be?

Intact or Circumcision

Intact or Circumcision

Why do people get so upset when you mention Circumcision.

This show is just about educating on different subjects, and so the subject of circumcision has to be one of them.
Let’s stop pointing fingers and get down to what is important, and that is parenting to the best of our ability.

I don’t care if you did, or did not circumcise your son, it is your business, not mine!!
No shaming allowed!

Even though my guest speaker is very clear in her opinion, she doesn’t believe in shaming either way.

So let’s get a discussion going. Why do you think you should or should not circumcise?  Both of my guest speakers are willing to answer your questions and or give reasons for why they have made statements on these videos, so please leave comments.

Or if you believe the opposite of these guests, please tell us why and if you are an expert on the subject, we would love to have you on the show.   Leave your comments and contact info and I will contact you as soon as I can.

The majority of this info can be found by exploring at either https://www.intactnetwork.org/research or the main resource list at Saving Our Sons here: http://www.savingsons.org/2014/12/should-i-circumcise-pros-and-cons-of.html

Medical Links:

UTI Resources: http://www.savingsons.org/2014/11/uti-resource-page.html

One STI Study: http://www.savingsons.org/2016/10/circumcised-men-more-likely-to-have.html (also at journal site here: https://www.jsm.jsexmed.org/article/S1743-6095(15)33809-1/abstract)

HIV Resources: http://www.drmomma.org/2014/01/hiv-aids-circumcision-resources.html

Medical Organization Position Statements: http://www.drmomma.org/2014/08/medical-organization-position.html

“Protect Your Intact Son: Medical Advice for Parents When Your Doctor Says to Circumcise” by Dr. Paul M. Flies, MD: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/08/protect-your-uncircumcised-son-expert.html

American Medical Association Journal of Ethics article: https://journalofethics.ama-assn.org/article/nontherapeutic-circumcision-minors-ethically-problematic-form-iatrogenic-injury/2017-08

Time for US Parents to Reconsider the Acceptability of Male Circumcision by Dr. Morten Frisch, Danish MD: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/morten-frisch/time-for-us-parents-to-reconsider-the-acceptability-of-infant-male-circumcision_b_7031972.html

Functions of the Foreskin:

http://www.drmomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html

More on Sexuality:

http://www.drmomma.org/2009/07/how-male-circumcision-impacts-women.html

http://www.drmomma.org/2009/07/sexual-effects-of-circumcision.html

http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com/

Religious:

Various religious resources:http://www.drmomma.org/2011/01/faith-considerations-on-circumcision.html

The Christian website is https://www.wholechristian.org and the page with the list of verses on it is https://www.wholechristian.org/verses.

Find Your Local Intact Chapter: https://www.facebook.com/TheIntactNetwork/photos/a.250291591700168/1603355386393775/?type=3&theater

Click here to watch part two as well as it is another non-shaming viewpoint.

Children, Not Allowed?

Children, Not Allowed?

When are children allowed to sit with adults?
Should they be made to go out when there are a bunch of adults discussing adult things, or should the adults tone down what they are saying while children are present?

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