Breaking Cycles of Abuse: Cruzz’s story

Breaking Cycles of Abuse: Cruzz’s story

Let Cruz Control inspire you with her story: And Learn how to Help be part of the solution to break the cycles of Abuse for the next generation!

Learn what our children need from us, and or what we can do to help other children.

As responsible adults, it is our duty to help ALL children.

Staying alert, listening, paying attention to behaviours and building a relationship with children are the basic things we should all be willing to do when we see a child who might be in need of some help.

Watch this video to learn what Cruz Control did to give her daughter back control and how this impacted all of their lives.
What does she think an adult, ANY adult could have done to change her life so that she had a different life completely.
Her story will inspire you to think twice about NOT HELPING A CHILD that you see who is struggling.

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Breaking Cycles of Abuse: Katarina’s story

Breaking Cycles of Abuse: Katarina’s story

Let Katarina inspire you with her story: And Learn how to Help be part of the solution to break the cycles of Abuse for the next generation!

Learn what our children need from us, and or what we can do to help other children.

As responsible adults, it is our duty to help ALL children.

Staying alert, listening, paying attention to behaviours and building a relationship with children are the basic things we should all be willing to do when we see a child who might be in need of some help.

Watch this video to learn what Katarina believes would have made THE difference in her life.
What does she think an adult, ANY adult could have done to change her life so that she had a different life completely.
Her story will inspire you to think twice about NOT HELPING A CHILD that you see who is struggling.

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Look online for services, support & shelters in your area

A Mothers Story: Her Daughter was Sex Trafficked

A Mothers Story: Her Daughter was Sex Trafficked

I remember hearing stories about someone being human trafficked and two things flashed in my mind.

  1. a child/teen being forced into that back of a van
  2.  a rebellious teen defying her parents.

I was naive!!!

Domestic  Human Trafficking is a much more subtle, evil thing that seeps into our lives.

Please watch, and educate yourself.

Being aware of what Human Trafficking really is, and how it all happens will be the first step to protecting your family.

If you or anyone you know is being trafficked please contact your local Victim Services or check out any of these links below.

These are great resources for you to give out, and to learn from

Human Trafficking Resources

Watch my daughters story here
Debunking the myths of Human Trafficking is the only way you are going to fully educate yourself enough to protect yourself and those you love. This video will also teach you things you can start doing at a young age to teach consent.  Very important basic skill to learn that will help protect them for the rest of their lives from all kinds of abuse.

An in-depth talk regarding Human Trafficking and what to look for. 

Chores done without the fight

Chores done without the fight

The Chore Wars: those constant battles of trying to get your children to do chores and yet keeping peace in the house? Is it possible to have both?

You work hard all day and then come home to a dirty house and your child is sitting in front of the t.v.
They say, ‘hey, I’ve been to school all day.
Really, and you think I have been sitting in my office all day eating bonbon?

Or you are a stay-at-home mom, and your kids don’t think you work hard so you should clean up. They shouldn’t have to do chores.
Really, because you haven’t spent all day just scrubbing floors, or bathrooms, cooking dinners, grocery shopping, changing diapers, running after little ones ensuring they are not touching things they should. Or for the older children driving them here, there and everywhere.  Right? You do nothing but sit at home watching Netflix and eating bonbons.

And so, it begins. Miscommunication is innate in every family.
Children thinking you are asking too much of them and that you don’t do much at all in your day.

You are frustrated with your children because all you have asked them to do is clean their room.  Or pick up their own dishes or put the shoes and backpack away when they get home. These simple little chores seem so hard to teach them and it causes tension and daily fighting in the home. Making it so you dread leaving work.

  • Is there a better way?
  • Can you calm the chaos that comes into the home when you ask your kids to do a chore?
  • How do you get your kids to do chores?
  • Should you pay for Chores done, and why or why not?

Check out how to help your children or yourself, break bad habits. 

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Breaking Bad Habits

Breaking Bad Habits

You can’t seem to get your children to pick up their clothes, put dishes away, close the door when they go outside?
Not things that will change who they are as a person, but habits that will make life more pleasant in your home.
Is there a way to do this?  And how much work will it take on your part? If you have failed in helping them have great habits so far, what are you doing wrong?

Watch and learn the little trips that Shiri has imparted to us, which will help us, help our children learn how to create good habits. The benefit to this is that you can start using this tool for yourself as well to teach yourself good habits.

Teaching a child how to change a habit is not the same thing as teaching a child how to do household chores.

To see more of Shiri’s helpful advice please check out this link 
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Click here for the video on how to establish a good networking family, where we are all helping out with household chores. Learn how to pick which ones to start with and how to be successful in getting those chores done.

Sex Trafficked, A Personal Story:

Sex Trafficked, A Personal Story:

It is time to debunk the myths about human trafficking and realize what it really is.

My daughters’ story, heart wrenching but true.
If you think this doesn’t happen to normal, suburban, faith-based families, you are wrong.

Let’s take control back from those that would like to do nothing more than making money off of our children and potentially destroy their lives.
How do we do that, but educating ourselves on what Human trafficking really is?
Did you know that the majority of Human trafficking happening in our area is involving our own children, living in homes like yours and we don’t even know?
Human Trafficking is not typically like that movie ‘Taken’, or like the other movies that show little kids being kidnapped, thrown in a van, confined to a room and sold. It is our sons and daughters being sold a dream and they are quite often involved while still living at home.

Protecting your children is our primary goal as parents.  Knowledge can help you do that. I wished I had known before my daughter got caught up in it. But regrets don’t fix anything. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and my daughter is now one of the strongest people I know. If by sharing our experience with you will help save one child from having to go through the same then, then it was at least worth doing this video.

To watch my side of this same story, check this out. 

Human Trafficking Resources

Look online for services, support & shelters in your area

Debunking Myths about Human Trafficking to protect our kids

Debunking Myths about Human Trafficking to protect our kids

It is time to debunk the myths about human trafficking and realize what it really is.
Let’s take control back from those that would like to do nothing more than making money off of our children and potentially destroy their lives.
How do we do that, but educating ourselves on what Human trafficking really is?
Did you know that the majority of Human trafficking happening in our area,  is happening to our own children, living in our homes and we don’t even know?
It is not typically, what we think which is like the movie “Taken” where teens, and or little children are kidnapped, thrown in a van, confined to a room and sold. It is our sons and daughters being sold a dream and being treated like a queen by this “boyfriend” or “girlfriend”, looking like a normal relationship, while living at home.

Protecting your children is our primary goal as parents.  Knowledge can help you do that. I wished I had known before my daughter got caught up in it. But regrets don’t fix anything. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and my daughter is now one of the strongest people I know. If sharing our experience with you all will help save one child from having to go through the same then, then it was at least worthwhile.

There are a few resources we talk about in the video, but one of the best ones I found was Rally for the Challenge and they are also one of the few that allowed me to use some of their graphics on this video.

Victim services Ontario: Look online for the one closest to you in Canada.

Victim support UK: Look online for the closest one to you in the UK

Living in Community: is the link Carly talked about in the video near the end.

If you have any questions or comments please see the bottom of this post.

Is Momo a hoax? But this video is not.

Is Momo a hoax? But this video is not.

A mom who had to deal with her daughter wanting to hurt herself with a knife, then drawing suicide pictures. Dealing with the meltdown of all of this made her want to speak out and help other parents know, even if MoMo is a hoax, there are other videos out there that are causing our children harm.

Meridy also had a Teck guy messenger her with this which is good advice. I am waiting for his permission to post it here, so come back for it soon.

The woman in the video was contacted by this company to be an advocate for them, with a company called Bark, so there is another resource for you and your children.

The video this child watched a day before she drew the picture you will see in the video. The video the moms refer to with Filthy Frank has been taken down.

This article is saying MoMo is not real, but if nothing else it is keeping us aware of what our kids are doing.

News are giving some deals here about MoMo  and another one here

A mom talks about ways to help protect. She mentions a couple of sites to use that will help you keep your kids safe’. But the truth is you need to stay diligent

Here is the link to the picture on Meridy’s facebook page

This is a link regarding  YouTube disabling comments… it is a start, but not enough

It is even alleged that a video with FilthyFrank

Teaching our children to Cope with Bullies

Teaching our children to Cope with Bullies

Did you know that so many are trying to teach their children how to cope with bullies, but you might be raising one?

How you talk around your children, how you judge others might be enough for your child to assume it is okay to make fun of others that are different.
We need to be careful about how we talk about others when around our children.

If you are struggling right now with you or your child being bullied, watch Joanne’s story and see how she coped.  Then continue watching as she teaches you not only how to cope but helps you understand how our unintentional words can cause our children to also become bullies.  Joanne has some very helpful tips due to a lot of experience. She is a mom who has been bullied quite a lot of her life and is now also dealing with it for her child.

I think we have all had to deal with a bully at least once in our life. but let’s also not be the reason for allowing our children to be bullies.  Our words, our actions, our judgments are being watched every day. We are the example that our children follow. So be a good one. Think about what you are saying within earshot of your children. Think about what you are doing in front of your children. Understand that your actions will be followed closely by your children.
Check out this link of a mom who had to put up with a bully in a restaurant.

Click here to see what I did to help my son learn how to cope with bullies.

London mums’ magazine: Owner and Editor Monica Costa

London mums’ magazine: Owner and Editor Monica Costa

This mom built-up London Mums’ magazine from nothing and works full time running it. Monica Costa has had the opportunity to interview some pretty amazing stars, as well as some ‘regular moms.  In her words, “sometimes these ‘regular moms are the best interviews”. Well, I can say the same thing about Monica. She is not a well-known star and she doesn’t have a ‘name’ everyone would recognize, but she is one of the best interviews I have done. She has a heart and passion for people and one of her main goals is to make the world a better place.

Raising her son, while working till the wee hours of the mornings sometimes.  She has figured out how to fit it all in.  Monica also talks about her parenting tips and skills and how she is helping her son to become a product, independent human being.

As you watch the interview you will fall in love with her spirit, and her passion for life. You will discover her love of food, toys, writing and culture.  She is planning on writing books and living her life in such a way that others will have a great example to follow. One who thinks about their fellow human being and wants to help others in any way she can.

Lastly:
Find out why she has taken up ‘Fencing’.

Click here to learn how to deal with the frustrations of being a mom, and all that entails.

Click here to watch another mom who has learned the art of full-time work and being a great mom.

A Mothers, Story: Coping with the loss of a child

A Mothers, Story: Coping with the loss of a child

One of the most difficult things to deal with is the loss of a child.
This interview is with a mom who lost her 20-year-old daughter in a car accident.
She talks about the pain and the steps of her grieving process in the hopes of helping others that might be going through this struggle.

Linda answers these questions in her video and although you need to watch the whole video, to highlight the important parts I have the times in the video beside some important questions that will be great for review after you watch the whole thing

  • What happens to you when you have a death in your life and how do you deal with people? 3:30
  • What to do when you are struggling with the loss 4:55
  • Coping skills 5:55
  • What to do if you feel like you want to disappear 7:00 – 9:42
  • What are the stages, and do you have to go through them? 10:15 – 14:15
  • What you need to do in order to move forward 14:45-18:40 and 27:15
  • Permission to do what you need 29:00 – 30:33
  • Do you feel like you have lost your heart 31:49 – 36:54
  • A personal message from Linda to help you through this journey 36:54 – 42:00
  • Nobody can fix you, but you can need a support person 43:17

Please take Linda’s advice if you are struggling with coping and find a counsellor that has suffered a loss as well as they will understand and be able to help you with your grief.

When looking on Google for this type in ‘Find a Grief Therapist, Grief Psychologist, Grief Counselor’ and type in your city.

Click here to watch a video on dealing with guilt

Click here to watch a video on dealing with a terminal illness and raising children.

Intact Vrs Circumcision Pro’s and Con’s Part 2

Intact Vrs Circumcision Pro’s and Con’s Part 2

Why do people get so upset when you mention Circumcision.

This show is just about educating on different subjects, and so the subject of circumcision has to be one of them.
Let’s stop pointing fingers and get down to what is important, and that is parenting to the best of our ability.

I don’t care if you did, or did not circumcise your son, it is your business, not mine!!
No shaming allowed!

Even though my guest speaker is very clear in her opinion, she doesn’t believe in shaming either way.

So let’s get a discussion going. Why do you think you should or should not circumcise?  Both of my guest speakers are willing to answer your questions and or give reasons for why they have made statements on these videos, so please leave comments.

Or if you believe the opposite of these guests, please tell us why and if you are an expert on the subject, we would love to have you on the show.   Leave your comments and contact info and I will contact you as soon as I can.

The majority of this info can be found by exploring at either https://www.intactnetwork.org/research or the main resource list at Saving Our Sons here: http://www.savingsons.org/2014/12/should-i-circumcise-pros-and-cons-of.html

Medical Links:

UTI Resources: http://www.savingsons.org/2014/11/uti-resource-page.html

One STI Study: http://www.savingsons.org/2016/10/circumcised-men-more-likely-to-have.html (also at journal site here: https://www.jsm.jsexmed.org/article/S1743-6095(15)33809-1/abstract)

HIV Resources: http://www.drmomma.org/2014/01/hiv-aids-circumcision-resources.html

Medical Organization Position Statements: http://www.drmomma.org/2014/08/medical-organization-position.html

“Protect Your Intact Son: Medical Advice for Parents When Your Doctor Says to Circumcise” by Dr. Paul M. Flies, MD: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/08/protect-your-uncircumcised-son-expert.html

American Medical Association Journal of Ethics article: https://journalofethics.ama-assn.org/article/nontherapeutic-circumcision-minors-ethically-problematic-form-iatrogenic-injury/2017-08

Time for US Parents to Reconsider the Acceptability of Male Circumcision by Dr. Morten Frisch, Danish MD: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/morten-frisch/time-for-us-parents-to-reconsider-the-acceptability-of-infant-male-circumcision_b_7031972.html

Functions of the Foreskin:

http://www.drmomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html

More on Sexuality:

http://www.drmomma.org/2009/07/how-male-circumcision-impacts-women.html

http://www.drmomma.org/2009/07/sexual-effects-of-circumcision.html

http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com/

Religious:

Various religious resources:http://www.drmomma.org/2011/01/faith-considerations-on-circumcision.html

The Christian website is https://www.wholechristian.org and the page with the list of verses on it is https://www.wholechristian.org/verses.

Find Your Local Intact Chapter: https://www.facebook.com/TheIntactNetwork/photos/a.250291591700168/1603355386393775/?type=3&theater

Dr Kellogg’s claim is at this link  http://www.savingsons.org/2008/01/circumcision-in-america.html?m=1&fbclid=IwAR2xvT-PzcB2Rq178vzK7CbP-E0O8rM79zMeNdRC6wVOm2uPrhTD0FeEQko

Click here to watch part two as well as it is another non-shaming viewpoint.