Create Success

Create Success

Is your main concern, or goal to create successful children? WHY is success considered to be the most important thing in a child’s life? Although this article* below is well written and it is short and to the point, I don’t believe it is a balanced way of thinking. There is some great suggestion in there of ways to help our children do better, but why?

We should stimulate our children to do better on occasion, but we also should allow them to just feel good for doing a good job.  And we should allow them to have fun.

*http://brightside.me/inspiration-family-and-kids/one-little-trick-for-talking-to-kids-that-will-make-them-successful-in-the-future-193105/

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Your child will never get caught up in human trafficking right? So you don’t need to watch this as your family is a good family.  So was mine. A family dedicated to, God and community and yet it happened to us, mostly because I didn’t know anything about it. Don’t let ignorance be your reason for failing your kids.
Click here if you want to protect your kids.

Household Chores?

Household Chores?

Please comment below on what you do for rewards and or household chores.
This is a big subject and we can all learn from each other.

Their Best

Their Best

I have always said that the main goal of a parent is to help a child be the best they can be.  If you are a follower of mine you will have heard me say or seen it written, many times.  Here is a quick video on what I mean by that.  Enjoy and please leave your comments below and we love it when you share posts, videos etc.

 

 

How important are your words?

How important are your words?

We are in a society where social media more than any other form of marketing helps develop our way of thinking. If someone states that you should act ‘a certain way’ or do ‘a certain thing’ by only offering us one side of the story, as a rule, we tend to say, ‘hey that makes sense,’ and we forget to realize there is always more to the story.

I strive to be a balanced person in how I live, how I act and how I treat others. Do I have opinions, hell ya I do, but I try hard not to overreact when someone has a different way of thinking than me?  Everyone is allowed to have different opinions than me, even my children!

But what I don’t think we realize is that how or what we say will influence how our children feel about things.  For example, if you say: ‘You shouldn’t eat this because’ or “isn’t this a terrible thing that happened,’ you are enforcing your opinion on the situation which tends to make your child already feel the same thing you do! It is a minor form of brainwashing. It is a simple fact, and those in marketing know all about it. However, the power we all hold in our hands is too immense to articulate.

I hope that this video blog and all my videos that follow will show you a balanced way of thinking as parents. I know my ideas are not the only conceivable way to think, they are just one way to think. I am hoping to show you how to read between the lines, how to think about how media or other people’s opinions are trying to make you feel and help you develop your own opinion.

Of course, all my videos are my opinions, but I am hoping you will share your views constructively so that we can all learn. So, we can all realize there might be more to any story than we understand and hopefully, that will open our minds to think outside of our own boxes.

Are Parents to Blame?

Are Parents to Blame?

I came back from a business trip to hear about how Marco Muzzo killed 3 children and their grandfather in a car accident allegedly due to drunk driving. There is absolutely no doubt this is a tragedy.  My heart goes out to the families that have lost 3 children and a parent all in one day. I cannot even imagine their pain. Are Marco’s parents to blame for this? Or does this solely lay on the shoulders of Marco for getting behind that wheel while intoxicated?

Trying to find a reason for such a tragedy is human nature but I don’t think stooping to insulting the parents of the drunk driver is the way to do it. Today I saw an article on Facebook about Marco’s mom. It was a video she put together to try and get onto a cooking show. Although she was pretensions and a bit arrogant in the video the Facebook audience took this as a way to assume that this explained why Marco was arrogant enough to get behind the wheel of a car while drinking.  The exact quote was” The apple probably didn’t fall far from the tree”.

Here is what I would like to ask. Have you ever had a child do something that you were not proud of?  If so was this your fault?

A lot of what my children do or think is because of how I raised them. However,  quite often some of the things my children have said and/or done I have shaken my head at and wondered why.

Even that is not the issue here though is it?  The issue is that a man started drinking and decided to drive and in doing so killed 4 innocent people. The biggest tragedy of all will be if this man gets away with it. Let’s not make this about anything other than what it is, by pulling others into this that have nothing to do with it. If I was Marco’s parents right now I would be devastated by the pain the other family is going through, knowing it was my child that caused that pain. Instead of hurling stones at Marco’s parents because of something their son did, let’s keep our focus on the real issue.

I speak as a woman who is closely related to someone who killed a young child from drinking and driving.  I know the pain of guilt he lives through every day and I am not saying he deserves their forgiveness, because he didn’t. Here is what I can tell you about this from the other side of the story. The grace those parents showed to this drunk driver is what changed this man’s life forever.

We as the general public do not have the right to put our noses where it doesn’t belong.  It is up to the victim’s families whether or not they decide to show grace.  We need to stop casting stones towards anyone and only concern ourselves with seeing that justice is done legally. If you feel the need to do something then get more involved with M.A.D.D. and help to prevent more of this from happening.

We need to use our energy to help support the parents who are living with this tragedy and ensure we take the time to learn from this and help our family and friends not get behind a wheel while drinking.   Let the grieving family have their time to deal with this without us causing even more pain and heartache.

Click here to watch another video on people drinking and see if you think this parent is at fault as well.

Click here to see what happens with useless guilt parents carry.